Where Are the Protections to Keep Children’s Records Safe?

What if your child’s most sensitive information, including medical and academic records, was accessible without any guarantee of privacy? Unfortunately, this frightening reality may be true for students and families who attend The O’Neal School.

North Carolina’s Department of Administration oversees non-public education, including private schools. This organization states that each non-public school should establish its own policies concerning the release of student records and that the laws do not address record keeping requirements. However, after an extensive review, we found no written assurance that the information maintained at O’Neal about students will be kept confidential. Here are some of the places we looked:

  • Enrollment Agreement: The agreement details the terms and conditions for enrollment but does not include any clauses regarding the privacy of student information.
  • Middle School Handbook: While the handbook provides guidelines for student behavior, academic expectations, and general school policies, it only specifies that counseling sessions are considered confidential. There is no mention of the confidentiality of other student records.
  • Privacy Policy on the Website: The policy primarily addresses the collection and use of information from the website and does not extend to the protection of student records within the school.

Read more >

Board Member Violates Code of Conduct in Attempt to Smear Family

After an 11-year-old child was assaulted on campus at The O’Neal School, significant community discussion was anticipated. The incident was thoroughly investigated by a police detective who interviewed the victim, an eyewitness, school administration, the assailant, and doctors. Medical records were also reviewed, and incriminating text messages from the assailant were examined. The detective then filed a petition for simple assault against the attacker. Our website highlighted the trauma endured by the child and his family, showcasing medical records from several providers over multiple months, totaling over $35,000 in health insurance claims while managing chronic pain during recovery.

In February, the Stefanik family was approached by a reporter interested in their story. Following an interview, the article was published, detailing the events and encouraging others to come forward with more information. Shortly thereafter, a member of the O’Neal Board of Trustees began aggressively defaming the father and their son, attempting to undermine the family’s credibility.

We received an email from a source, which was authored by this Board Member, containing content so offensive that we chose not to redistribute it. However, it has come to our attention that this same Trustee is now actively spreading the lies from this email within the community.

Read more >

More Resignations Without Transparency

Over a month ago we outlined essential steps in ‘Restoring Balance and Justice,’ aimed at correcting past wrongs and rebuilding community trust. Regrettably, The O’Neal School has chosen not to address many of the critical issues we highlighted while continuing to avoid any admission of wrongdoing.

John Elmore’s resignation was initially seen as a hopeful shift away from a toxic culture. However, this change only scratches the surface of deeper systemic issues. It has recently been announced that James Franklin, the Director of Athletics and Transportation, is stepping down. This decision may be related to his involvement in the ban of a former student from competing on a visiting swim team. Furthermore, Miryah Walters has once again signaled her intent to leave at the end of the 2023-2024 academic year following her role in the mishandling of policies regarding student safety. Whether these departures will occur remains to be seen, but the delay in implementing necessary changes continues to undermine trust in the organization.

While key administrative figures are leaving, the public narrative presented by O’Neal often downplays their resignations with comments such as ‘we wish them well,’ ‘we are grateful for their dedication,’ or ‘we wish them continued success.’ The reality, however, is clear: students and their families have suffered under the inadequate leadership of these administrators. Instead of acknowledging the wrongdoings, the school’s response has been to minimize the events by attempting to conceal the issues through misdirection and secrecy.

Read more >

Charting A Path to Move Forward

In a recent development at The O’Neal School, a security issue involving a student making threats has been promptly addressed. The interim Head of School, Brenda Jackson, informed the community that this student would no longer attend O’Neal.  While ensuring student safety is a fundamental expectation, Mrs. Jackson’s decisive leadership in this instance is notable and should be commended for its contrast to the policies and decisions observed under the previous administration.

The feedback from the community about Mrs. Jackson has so far been positive, underscoring her respect within the community and her potential to guide the school through this difficult transition. Her leadership could be instrumental in steering O’Neal back to its foundational principles of character and integrity, qualities that have long defined the school’s legacy.  We sincerely hope she will be successful in accomplishing this goal and are willing to support her and the school in these efforts.

However, before moving forward, O’Neal must openly confront and address its past issues.  The narrative surrounding John Elmore’s resignation and the Board’s subsequent response lacks the transparency and accountability needed to provide closure for the affected families and the community at large.

Read more >

The O’Neal School at a Crossroads

Over the weekend The O’Neal School community was alerted to a security concern: a student had made threats, was subsequently identified, placed under police investigation, and barred from campus. Notably, this communication came directly from the Board of Trustees and not from the then-Head of School, John Elmore, marking a departure from the usual routine and setting the stage for more surprising news.

John Elmore – Former Head of School

Effective Monday, March 11, 2024, the Board announced a pivotal change to school leadership with John Elmore’s immediate resignation. This resignation came after discussions with the Board and was accepted “without question.” Within hours, a local newspaper article introduced Brenda Jackson as the new Interim Head of School. While Jackson’s history with O’Neal predates Elmore’s tenure, offering a fresh perspective at a critical time, it’s important to note that her position is temporary and the search for a permanent head of school is underway. Her immediate challenge is to lead the school beyond its current issues towards openness and resolution or risk continuing the existing toxic culture.

Amidst the management transition the Board of Trustees’ handling of the Stefanik family’s assault case highlights significant leadership failures. The Board’s communication with the family began with a phone call from Mr. Stefanik to Board Chair Lynda Acker on June 27, 2023, followed by an in-person meeting with executives on July 19, and a comprehensive written complaint submitted on July 26 detailing the administration’s misconduct. Despite these efforts the Board’s August 8 response effectively dismissed the Stefaniks’ concerns paving the way for continued threats and harassment from John Elmore. Further attempts to secure action, including a legal notice to both John Elmore and Lynda Acker on August 21 and a direct written appeal sent to nearly all board members on November 15 were met with total disregard.

Read more >

Board Backs John Elmore’s Decision to Keep Miryah Walters

During consultation with the Executive Committee of the Board, John Elmore successfully advocated for the continuation of Miryah Walters as the Assistant Head of School and Head of Middle School, thereby reversing the earlier announcement of her departure. This decision is extremely disappointing as it effectively endorses behaviors and actions that have been widely criticized.

Despite mounting evidence of administrative misconduct, the Board’s continued portrayal of the school’s response to an assault as ‘responsible and appropriate’ grossly misrepresents the gravity of the situation. In fact, the response was not just inadequate—it fell short of meeting the basic standards of care expected in an educational setting. This steadfast support for the current leadership in the face of significant community backlash undermines the Board’s credibility and raises doubts about their ability to govern.

The feedback we’ve received from commenters on our Facebook page paints a deeply concerning view of the culture and policies at The O’Neal School:

  • “I went to O’Neal for a LONG time. I BEGGED my folks for YEARS to send me somewhere else… anywhere else! My siblings did the same.”
  • “I wish I would have pressed charges on the kid who bullied my son while he was there. It’s the exact reason we pulled him out of the school.”
  • “I have heard stories of this school and things like this happening all of the time there. The more money you have the more your kids can get away with.”

Read more >

Pursuing Vanity Over Student Safety

In August of 2022, The O’Neal School embarked on a significant rebranding effort focusing many of its resources on the newly constructed pavilion at the heart of Konni’s Courtyard. This architectural masterpiece was intended to symbolize a new era of unity and progress for the school. Details of this undertaking and the events surrounding it have been chronicled in ‘The O’Neal Magazine 2022 | Annual Report 2021-2022.

Logo of The O'Neal School with central gazebo symbolizing the site of significance.

“This month, O’Neal launched a new logo displayed throughout the campus and in our materials, including this magazine. The formal logo’s design, based on the beautiful pavilion in Konni’s Courtyard, was created as a community space for students and events, celebrating the School’s first 50 years. The structure at the center of campus unifies the divisions and symbolizes the vision of those who made the School what it is today. The new logo represents O’Neal’s next era and bright future.” – John Elmore

However, April 2023 unveiled a distressing truth when a child was assaulted near the gazebo. Lynda Acker, a key consultant for Konni’s Courtyard design, later revealed that surveillance cameras—a fundamental component of the original design—were omitted due to unresolved technical issues. She also acknowledged that supervision and monitoring in these areas were lacking. This admission highlights a significant oversight: despite having the financial resources, the school failed to implement essential safety measures before unveiling their new spectacle.

Read more >

Goodbye to Miryah Walters

We wish to inform our community about the impending departure of Miryah Walters from The O’Neal School at the end of the 2023-2024 academic year. Although the reasons for her leaving have not been disclosed, our organization has raised serious concerns about her conduct and decision-making abilities especially regarding student discipline and safety. These concerns highlight the urgent need for a change in leadership.

Our expectation is that the search for a new Assistant Head of School and Head of Middle School will prioritize candidates who demonstrate fairness, integrity, and a strong moral compass. These qualities are essential for rebuilding trust among students, parents, and faculty. It is also imperative for any new administrator to assert and maintain independence from the overbearing influence of John Elmore.

We remain dedicated to holding school authorities accountable and advocating for an environment that supports the responsible care and development of children at The O’Neal School.

Miryah Walters – Assistant Head of School